Staying Confident with Purpose (What’s YOUR WHY?)

A lot of people want to know how to build confidence, but what about maintaining their confidence? Is it possible to continue having a high self confidence even when we’re going through difficult times? Additionally, how can we get higher self confidence at the same time?… One way to staying confident and having a higher self confidence is by having a definite purpose…

Purpose and Self Confidence?

Having a definite purpose can vary from setting goals in your everyday life to completing major projects. However, in this article we’re talking about something much bigger than everyday activities, though they are important. We’re talking about setting a VISION for your future… Discovering your WHY for life.

When you become determined you gain self confidence. "Some people succeed because they are destined but most because they are determined."By finding a definite purpose in your life you’re making something to aim for. Something that will have you going forward every single day. When times are hard, you can remind yourself what your ultimate life mission is and find comfort in it. You will become DETERMINED in your life by finding a purpose…

As a result, your self confidence will be less impacted when things don’t go your way. Instead, you’ll realize that your life has a higher purpose and this is just a minor set back. And in a few months, you won’t even remember having a bad day.

Besides gaining confidence by having purpose in your life, you’ll also have more enthusiasm for life. You’ll wake up every single day ready for work. Ready to start your day. You’ll no longer hate your job or wish you were someone else. With purpose in your life, you will become unstoppable!

How To Find Your Purpose in Life

While there are several ways on how to get self confidence, having a purpose in your life will help you get through life with more confidence with everything you do. Finding your purpose in life is important, so take the time and effort to go through the following exercise… There is no quick fix solution, but when you find your purpose everything else will become easier for you.

Here are some simple steps you need to follow in order to gain confidence in your life by finding your purpose:

Before Writing Down Anything:

  • Take out a few sheets of loose paper and a pen.
  • Find a place where you will not be interrupted. This is time you’re taking out for yourself.
  • Write the answers to each question down. Write the first thing that pops into your head. Write without editing. It’s important to write out your answers rather than just thinking about them. Often, what first comes out of your mind is more influential than what you think later.
  • Be honest. Nobody will read it. This is for you and no one else.

Ask Yourself These Questions

Time take time to discover your purpose in life by writing. You'll also become more confident in your life when you have purpose.1. When have you been the happiest in your life?

2. What makes you feel really alive and energized?

3. What do you love doing so much that you lose track of time?

4. What makes you feel great about yourself?

5. Who inspires you most? (Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?

6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)

7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.

11. What are your deepest values? Select 3-5 from the list below or come up with your own:

  • Achievement
  • Adventure
  • Beauty
  • Being the best
  • Challenge
  • Comfort
  • Courage
  • Creativity
  • Curiosity
  • Education
  • Empowerment
  • Environment
  • Family
  • Financial freedom
  • Fitness
  • Friendship
  • Giving I service
  • Health
  • Honesty
  • Independence
  • Inner peace
  • Integrity
  • Intelligence
  • Intimacy
  • Joy
  • Leadership
  • Learning
  • Love
  • Motivation
  • Passion
  • Performance
  • Personal growth
  • Play
  • Productivity
  • Primary
  • Relationship
  • Reliability
  • Respect
  • Security
  • Spirituality
  • Success
  • Time freedom
  • Variety

12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?

13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?

14. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute?

16. If you had one week to live, how would you spend that week?

17. How will the world be better off, thanks to you having been on this earth?

Write Out Your Personal Mission Statement

A personal mission consists of 3 parts:

  • What do I want to do?
  • Who do I want to help?
  • What is the result? What value will I create?

Steps to Creating Your Personal Mission Statement:

Increase your confidence by becoming determined. "Once a person is determined to help themselves, there is nothing that can stop them."1. Answer the Questions above first.

2. List out actions words you connect with.

a. Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.

3. Based on your answers from the questions above. List everything and everyone that you believe you can help.

a. Example: People, animals, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.

4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘who’ from your above answer benefit from what you ‘do’?

5. Combine steps 2-4 into a sentence, or 2-3 sentences.

That’s it… Doing this activity is the start of building a self confidence that cannot be broken down easily. Even after going through this exercise, you may not find your purpose right away, however, by writing everything you’re much closer than before.

Over the next few days think about what you can start doing to align your life towards your life purpose. It could be reading books, taking classes, or possibly even making a career change. Think about what you’ve written and allow your subconscious to sleep on it as well. Over time answers will come to you.

Additional Resources on Finding Your Purpose in Life

What Color Is Your Parachute? 2016: A Practical Manual for Job-Hunters and Career-ChangersThis helpful manual shares proven tips for writing impressive resumes and cover letters, as well as guidance for effective networking, confident interviewing, and the best salary negotiating possible. But it goes beyond that by helping you to zero in on your ideal job—and life—with its classic Flower Exercise. Whether you’re searching for your first job, were recently laid off, or are dreaming of a career change, What Color Is Your Parachute? will guide you toward fulfilling and prosperous work. Learn More Here
The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will Bring Purpose to Your LifeA book that challenges each of us to take control – to make our lives be about something while at the same time remaining clear-eyed about the commitment — The Happiness of Pursuit will inspire readers of every age and aspiration.  It’s a playbook for making your life count. Learn More Here
Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes, Revised 25th Anniversary EditionTransitions has helped hundreds of thousands of readers cope with these issues by providing an elegantly simple yet profoundly insightful roadmap of the transition process. With the understanding born of both personal and professional experience, William Bridges takes readers step by step through the three stages of any transition: The Ending, The Neutral Zone, and, in time, The New Beginning. Learn More Here

See Also:


1. Life on Purpose: 15 Questions to Discover Your Personal Mission
2. How to Find Your Purpose in Life

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